Monday, August 28, 2006
We decide to say something, we decide to stand up for ourselves, we decide to stand up for others and we decide to sit back and watch everything blow by us.
The thing is, these 'little' choices, these 'tiny' decisions mean everything to our lives. One little decision can send our lives down completely different paths. For better or worse.
Of course not everything is under our control. But the passive attitude that we so often assume by telling ourselves that it wasn't under our control can be devastating to the path we want to be following.
Sitting and watching everything go by seems to be the norm. It's just assumed that if something goes one way that that is the way it's supposed to go. We can't do anything about it.
I'm incredibly guilty of this very thing in so many different ways. I can't even tell you how many times I've just let things happen. So many times I've made the passive choice. Was it because it was easier? Probably.
That's no way of doing things though. Passiveness is just another word for laziness and it stops here.
Song: Hootie & The Blowfish - Only Lonely
Tuesday, August 15, 2006
Why do people wait for things? Think about it. Has there been a time, in your life, that you haven't been waiting for something to happen?
At work you wait for that big promotion, or that new opportunity. At a bar you wait for the perfect moment to approach that one girl. At home you wait for that phone call you've been expecting. Some of us even wait for the second coming of Christ.
Why oh why do we wait? Is it really all that bad right now? Is your life, as it is right now, so bad that the best thing that you have to do is sit around and wait for something better to come along?
Think about it. No, REALLY think about it. It's not. I don't know who's reading this blog right now. Not much of anybody from what the page counter says. But I hope that one person reads this and agrees with me.
It's not all that bad. In fact it's probably pretty damn good. Yes I mean your life.
I mean you, who, may be working your way through 2 or even 3 jobs this summer to pay for college tuition. You who may be working 60+ hours each week. You who may be out of college and drowning in the monotonous rigors of a 9-5 cubicle job. Why do we do it? Because we think, we look forward, we hope for something better.
And there it is. Hope. There's always that little bit of hope in everybody that there's something better. When it comes down to it, yes, there probably is something better. But does that hope of something better keep us from enjoying the good that we have at the moment?
I'm not saying be content with what you have. No. Contentment never got anybody anywhere. Think about it, if everyone was always content with what they had, we would never have even got as far as inventing the wheel.
I think there are two kinds of contentment though. Passive contentment, and aggressive contentment. (Stick with me here)
Those who are passively content with things the way they are, are happy with their lives, but they get nowhere in life, never accomplish anything and never grow as a person. As far as I'm concerened nobody who's passively content will ever stay content. because there is a desire in every person that craves and feeds on accomplishments and succeeding in things they had never done or previously thought impossible. Leaving that desire unfulfilled for long periods of time can bring even the most content people down.
Those who are aggresively content, however, actively pursue their goals and are constantly fulfilling that desire to achieve and succeed in new things every day. They are always moving forward, yet always content with what they have at the moment.
Don't spend all your time waiting. Things will happen whether or not you wait. Be content. Don't be content to the point of laziness yet be happy. It isn't all that bad.
Song: Hootie & The Blowfish - Let Her Cry
Sunday, August 13, 2006
Y'know what's funny? The idea of the movie 'What Women Want'. The whole movie is based on a faulty idea. The idea that women know what women want and that a single man (Mel Gibson) who can read women's minds can figure out what they reall want.
I've got news for you, if a guy could read womens minds, he'd probably know less about women than he does now. Because guess what? Women don't know what they want.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying men do know what they want, cause I don't know where my life is going right now.
But here's the thing, Women, unlike men, pretend to know exactly what they want. They tell men these things, and men, the obliging being they are attempt to give them these things.
These same obliging men then end up in a spiraling, confusing, lost path to nowhere. And for what? Doing 'What Women Want'
My advice? A woman tells you what she wants? Do the opposite, the funny part is, she'll probably end up realizing that that is what she had wanted all along, and she'll thank you for it?
Make sense? No? Good.
Song: Josh Turner - Would You Go With Me
Wednesday, August 09, 2006
I just went on a 16 mile bike ride. 16 miles round trip in about 45 minutes. I still can't decide what I like better, road biking, or mountain biking. When it comes to speed you can't really compare mountain biking to road biking...you can just get going so much faster on a road bike. But going down a nice steep hill on a mtb coming inches away from hitting trees and other things in the path will get your heart beating and the adrenaline flowing more than a road bike ever has.
Yet, for some reason, I seem to be leaning more towards road biking. I can't figure out why. But I haven't really gotten a really good trail for my mountain bike yet either. I'm waiting for that to figure it out. Once I get back to Minnesota I'm going to get on a good trail and then make my decision.
Other than that, I got my new bag for next year...I know, I know, it's a bag who cares? But it's a really nice bag, called a Chrome Citizen. It's a bike messenger bag. It'll come in handy when I have two bikes and don't have a car around up at college.
Taylor Swift - When You Think Tim McGraw